When I woke up this morning my intention was to create a post about shoes for men over size 13. However lets talk therapy, I got this alert on my phone that I put there almost three week ago that says Look for therapist and every day I get home I see this alert but I always say remind me tomorrow and then I keep pushing it back. Well today wasn’t gonna be one of those days. I received a message from Crystal Perkins that was so powerful it made me get up and say no more theirs a few pieces to the puzzle missing and I need to get that piece added.
So as I am doing my research I came across this article from non other than Talk Space. In this article it talked about a lot of great points that held black men back from therapy. Jor-El Caraballo, Talkspace Therapist said “Unrealistic expectations based on gender and race often keep many Black men (and other men of color) out of therapy. The stereotype is that men don’t even like to ask for directions! You can imagine how hard it is to say to another person out loud, “I think I need some help.”
So on the pathway to understand how to even reach out to a therapist there are a lot of hurdles to jump through. So he says “As we enter Men’s Mental Health Month, it’s important for us to take a step back and honor the mental and emotional health of ourselves as men, and invest in spaces that help us unpack the influence of toxic masculinity that permeates through our society today. It doesn’t make a man weak to acknowledge the fears he has about providing for his family, or the anxieties he has about existing in a world in which Black bodies are devalued…it’s simply realistic”.
I hope this article speaks to you in way like never before and If it take you reading this to get to a therapist then Ive done my job.
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Hola Mi Tribesmen I guess I’ll start by introducing myself. I’m Kirklan Hawes the Founder and creator of XLTribe.com. This site was birthed from an old idea I had to create a community of like-minded guys that was tired of being miss represent and wanted to be displayed in the truest form. Changing the way Big & Tall Men are perceived is the goal for XLTribe.com.