Happy New Year XL Tribesmen. Men’s Shallow Connections And The Price Our Loved One’s Pay is the topic for today’s article.. This year I’m transforming the website. Y’all know I love fashion it’s my first real love but It’s time to think even more beyond fashion. I would like to help us build deeper connections with the people that we love.
That starts with our friends, one of the things that I noticed is that men tend to have a lot of surface relationships for the most part. I was reading an article that was talking about how men need to have deeper relationships and it really dawned on me. I happened to be a man that has a lot of deep friendships with other men. However, I noticed that a lot of the men who have friends that they go to the bar and drink with aren’t friends anymore so to speak.
Now that we’re in Pandemic those things aren’t happening as frequently. In most places, you can’t do a lot of indoor dining. For those people, they’re left with a sense of emptiness during this time that the world has been dealing with the effects & after-effects of a pandemic. The fact that’s there’s no deeper connection like there’s no one to talk to about your fears of what keeps you up at night bears a really negative effect on your partner & loved ones. Feelings aren’t just for women fellas. (Let me repeat that FEELING’S AREN’T JUST FOR WOMEN FELLAS.)
Let me ask you a question XL Tribesmen. If your partner is (tripping) do you have any Men that you can turn to say have you gone through this xyz situation how did y’all deal with it? One of the benefits of running this brand is the ability to connect with other men and I’ve noticed that a deeper level of connection is just not there. I’m not necessarily sure which is why I wrote this article. I wanted to present the idea for us XL Tribesmen to look into why we don’t have deeper connections.
I think as the year goes on I’ll definitely get into more of why I don’t have all the specific things that happened that will lead a man to not have a deeper connection. However, I just wanted to get the question sparked in your mind. Do you have deep meaningful relationships with your male friends? Straight, Bi Gay, Non-Binary, or anywhere in between the spectrum should not have any bearing on whether you are going to have great connections or not.
I was reading an article from Harper’s Bazzar and I want y’all to read this situation:
I had to be his emotional guru because he was too afraid to admit he had any emotions at all,” recalls the 24-year-old English teacher, who was studying for her Ph.D. at the time. Kelly’s boyfriend refused to talk to other men or a therapist about his feelings, so he’d often get into “funks,” picking pointless fights when something was bothering him. Eventually, Kelly became his default therapist, soothing his anxieties as he fretted overwork or family problems. After three years together, when exhaustion and anxiety landed her in the hospital and her boyfriend claimed he was “too busy” to visit, they broke up.Men Have No Friends and Women Bear the Burden
I wanna pose this question for you guys to start thinking about. What are the things I want you to ask yourself is if I’m going to a deep dark emotional time in my life who do I turn to. The second question I want you to ask yourself is if when you have relationship issues who are you going to talk about these things. Men’s Shallow Connections And The Price Our Loved One’s Pay.
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Hola Mi Tribesmen I guess I’ll start by introducing myself. I’m Kirklan Hawes the Founder and creator of XLTribe.com. This site was birthed from an old idea I had to create a community of like-minded guys that was tired of being miss represented and wanted to be displayed in the truest form. Changing the way Big & Tall Men are perceived is the goal for XLTribe.com.